There are moments in our lives when we are given the great privilege to witness a deep, unimaginable love. It is during such moments that I wish I could bottle it up. And, whenever I feel a moment of high-test overwhelm or forgetfulness of what is most important in life, I could just pull it off a shelf, remove the top and take a nice deep breath. Perhaps that is why writing is so important to me, as it gives us that opportunity to hold fast to those moments in our hearts, and share them with the rest of the world in high hopes that it will simply multiply with every reader’s eyes and connecting spirit. Although, you wouldn’t know it by the unexplainable break I have taken from blogging!
But this daily prompt is another perfect opportunity to get back into the game of connecting with the brilliant hearts and minds reading this blog now. A year ago today, my grandmother, Gertie, passed away after a long life in a place called Long Island. With her passing I was left with one of those cherished privileges to witness this deep love that I have described, that resulted from a grand moment of togetherness and a mutual experience of grief. As her funeral occurred over “Valentine’s Day 2013” it would seem uncanny to not take this opportunity to recognize not only my grandmother, but also my entire family, as “My Funny Valentines” this year (I’m allowed more than one Valentine, right?).
It happened at the end. Bonding through wake after wake, and then the solidifying funeral. There we all were, hanging out in the living room of my Uncle Joe and Aunt Sue. My Uncle Joe’s obsession with DVR “cheese” was taking place over the television, and everyone was exhausted eating their desserts after a final meal together. But there was one gem within his DVR madness- the song “Ho Hey” performed by the Lumineers at the most recent Grammy Award celebration. My little niece and nephew, who were both 3 and 2 years old at the time, loved to divide the chorus between the two of them.
My 3 year old niece, belting out the words “I belong with you, you belong with me, you’re my sweetheart!”
My 2 year old nephew doing the same with, “Ho! Hey! Ho! Hey!”
We all sang with them in our melancholy and gratefulness, hence that song does not play to this day without the appearance of a tear running down my face. I love you all, my funny valentines! And most of all, I thank you grandma, for bringing us together at the end of your life for a smashing moment of enduring love that will flourish in my heart forever. Just remember, “I belong with you, you belong with me, you’re my sweetheart!”
In the spirit of the infinite space that resides within our hearts, I say let’s just “Rock Big Love” this week anyway, and forget about the hallmark holiday!