As a life coach and someone who helps people learn how to give themselves pats on the back for making headway in personal work, I was delighted to see the daily writing prompt today. On the other hand, I am one of those typical ironic people that also feels like I am being inappropriate for maybe “tooting my own horn.” I recall a moment in my own personal history where a great uncle figure in my family was bathing me in complements while visiting my childhood home in Virginia. It was during a time in my life where I was just developing as a girl and felt extremely insecure about being pretty enough or accepted into social groups at school. As I was basking in the light of these complements my uncle’s wife said to him that she felt like he had said enough and that I didn’t look that pretty.
Talk about a plane taking a nose dive? Crash and burn.
It is funny to me now on one level. I can watch the scene like an outsider and laugh at it like a film pointing out the hilarity of the obvious situation my ego was engaged in. I have found in life that giving complements to others in a way does toot my own horn. It gives cause to feeling the inherent love that exists in my heart because I am recognizing it in others. I feel grateful because I can step back and say- this person is so kind, how can I bring more kindness into my life and interaction with others. I recommend to everyone out there that when you see light in another person, reflect back and know that you could not see that beauty unless you had first recognized it in yourself. It is the magic trick of life- that mirror reflecting back to you your truth over and over again.
When I lived in DC, there was this guy that would hang out at the top of Dupont Circle and give praise to people as they strolled by. It was his way of earning a living. He called himself the “Complement Man”. Even though it sounds funny- everyone loved him. He made a conscious decision that if he was going to ask people for money to help him in life, he was going to do something for it- so why not divvy out relevant complements to people? I say “three cheers!” to that. How can you also complement yourself today? How can you be the “Complement Man” (or woman) in your own life or someone else”s life?